It’s Summer Time – Time to Get Motivated!
Hey, guys, the weather is getting warmer and you know what that means. Yes, it is going to be summer time soon, the peak season for people to date and hook-up. Well, if you have not been going out and staying home and playing XBOX 360, shame on you. (I am guilty of logging in many hours on the Modern Warfare 2)
What we need is a swift kick in our asses, sometimes physical but more spiritual and mental, to get us moving in right direction and get the internal fire going in our bellies. So today I want to talk specifically to the guys who are having trouble with their motivation to go out.
I went through the same thing with traveling. I’ve talked about doing it for years, read about it, even researched different cities I would want to visit, but I didn’t take action until recently and today, I want to share the 4 biggest things that helped me do that.
1. FU%K Pride. Like Marcellus Wallace says in Pulp fiction, that sting you feel when you’re not good at something and it’s embarrassing and you’re worried about what people are going to think, is just pride messing with you. Hey, you want to know a huge secret nobody tells you? No one cares about you except yourself. So when you think that people are thinking about you, they are actually thinking about themselves. Remember the old say, “Everyone’s favorite subject is themselves”. If you’re reading this you want to change your dating life so don’t let pride get in your way. I will be first one to admit that I needed help that is the first step in change.
2. Make it as EASY as possible on yourself. Begin with small easy stuff that you are comfortable with, like going to house parties with a group of people you know. This will ease you in as well as make you seem more confident because you are applying the principle of situational confidence. Go to your favorite bar or club or coffee shop and start off by conversation with the girls you HAVE to talk to, that means bartenders, waitresses, Baristas etc… Don’t think that you have to dive in head first into a bachelor party for a playmate in the beginning.
3. Work on your fundamentals first. The first thing that you should realize is that mastering the fundamentals of any skills set will make you better than 80% of guys who are using that skill set. It’s the old 80/20 rule. So when I had to start learning something, I make sure that I have firm grasp on the fundamentals first before moving to more complicated stuff. Start out by updating your wardrobe, losing any weight you have to lose, and getting a newer haircut. Also learn how to be social and talk to girls as well as other people and having an interesting life.
4. Use baby steps. Don’t try to get too far ahead of yourself, either knowledge wise or application wise. Start out by saying “hi” to 5 women a day. Then try to keep the conversation going for 30 seconds, once you can do that. Don’t try to run before you can run. Pick 3 fundamental things first and work on them for a few weeks before moving onto next 3. Within 6 months you will have all you fundamentals down solid.
Hope that helps you guys. Now go out there and make it happen.